There is so much I want to write about “A Different Sort of Normal: A real-life completely true story about being unique” by Abigail Balfe (published in 2021), I have been trying to write this review for a while now and each time it becomes more of an essay than a review. I think what I want to write can be boiled down to simply this book is balm for the soul. Balfe captures an experience of being Neurodivergent that cut through many decades of adulthood and reminded me of being 6 years old again. Whilst this book is absolutely perfect for young readers for those of us who came to their Neurodivergence in adulthood Balfe’s words offer a welcome shared understanding of growing up as a different sort of normal. 

I might be getting ahead of myself - I did tell you I love this book with a passion. So for those of you who are first hearing about this glorious read through my waxing lyrical, let me explain why it is so very brilliant. 

The book is written and illustrated by Abigail Balfe and is half book, half graphic novel and follows a young (and not so young) Abigail as she navigates growing up Neurodivergent and not knowing it. The book speaks directly to the reader - in gentle, friendly tones - breaking the 4th wall on a regular basis. Discussing all aspects of being Neurodivergent from school, friendship (when it goes right and when it goes wrong), bullying, sexuality, gender cats, specialist interests and toilets (they are a recurring theme). 

In clear, easy to follow prose Balfe navigates difficult topics with humour and grace. I have read a lot of books aimed at Neurodivergent children and young adults and this book has the rare gift of making me laugh outloud. Balfe’s writing allows for us to laugh and holds space for the funny side of being Neurodivergent in a Neurotypical world. This use of humour and meandering dialogue makes the whole reading experience feel like a conversation about Autism and Neurodivergence(s) with a friend. As Balfe writes in the book it is a bit of a one sided conversation - I have to say though I am not complaining. 

The book on a purely academic level takes complex aspects of Autism and Neurodivergence and calmly explains them in a way that children learning about them will find easy to understand. The helpful glossary at the back is actually helpful. Balfe manages to break down the discourse on Neurodiversity into something fluid but understandable. For young readers looking for further support and information a list of organisations and additional reading can be found at the back of the book.   

Whether you are looking for a book for a newly diagnosed young person or are discovering your Autism in your 30s or later I cannot recommend this book enough as a starting point. The only assumption in the book is that you know your own lived experiences and Balfe’s writing asks you to explore hers in friendly companionship. I have said it before and I will say it again this book is balm for the soul. I cannot recommend it enough.  

“A Different Sort of Normal: A real-life completely true story about being unique” by Abigail Balfe can be purchased here.